Nabeela, United States

How did it start?

I found my lump myself. I was told to stay calm while being sent for urgent imaging. I knew something was wrong before it was confirmed. My body stopped feeling like home and became a case.

What was the biggest challenge(s) in your experience with cancer?

Cancer meant layered loss: mastectomy, hair loss, chemo-induced menopause, and BRCA1 led to early oophorectomy. I never wanted kids, but losing choice still carried grief.

What helped you most?

My community held us. Friends ran fundraisers, family and friends donated to our GoFundMe, and people brought food and care. That support made survival feel possible.

What was your experience of the healthcare system?

My oncology care was skilled, but gaps remained. Early on, a nurse commented on my hair before I’d processed my diagnosis. I felt medically heard, emotionally rushed.

What is your message of hope or words of advice?

To BIPOC, especially WOC: trust your body. Push when dismissed. Bring support. You deserve care without proving pain. Equity, autonomy, and compassion are lifesaving.